Let’s be honest for a second. Can we? How mindful are you of the energy you create? I remember seeing a picture in a yoga studio (or was it on a t-shirt?) that said something to the effect of “Be mindful of the energy you bring to this space.” Wherever that saying was, it’s been popping up in my mind A LOT in recent months.
Maybe it’s because the holiday season can be fraught with the stress of gift-giving and travel and finishing up work to prepare for a few days of vacation. Or maybe it’s because I’m in the most challenging days of my life so far (yes, also super rewarding - I mean, baby smiles). Or maybe it’s because, I’ve been re-reading Daring Greatly by Brene Brown alongside some fellow yogis these last few months. And, while she doesn’t explicitly say the word “energy,” the concept is all over the book.
I’m not sure why this saying keeps coming up for me. But, it makes complete sense to really think about the energy I create. I could start freaking out and/or procrastinating at the thought of hosting perfect holiday gatherings. I could stomp out of the house to blow off steam when talking about how to sleep train a baby (yes, it’s a thing...and yes I did that). But, where would that get me? Where has that gotten me?
Well...the output of negative energy has always led to a path of exhaustion, getting angry at myself for being angry, more stress, short texts or emails or phone conversations, an inability to appreciate the beauty of a simple outdoor walk, etc. And, whomever is on the receiving end of bad energy, rarely responds with an, It’s okay that you just took out your issues on me. So, it then just makes him or her unhappy. Right?
Let’s be mindful of the energy we create wherever we happen to be. Consider:
- How do you greet a co-worker who steps into your office when you’re oh so busy?
- Do you say a bright hello to your kiddo before gently sharing that his clothes don’t quite match for school (or maybe just let it go as self-expression)?
- How do you approach a holiday season that is no doubt full of joy, but also full of....STUFF TO DO?
- Do you write a polite greeting in an email, even when you’re out of your mind frustrated with [a system, process, customer service, you name it]?
- How do you tackle a major challenge or disagreement with a partner or colleague (ahem like sleep training)?
In the toughest of moments, I know being mindful of our own energy is difficult. But, the truth is the outcome of these situations is within our grasp. We can’t control what’s going on out there. We can only control what’s going on in here (points to chest). So, take a deep breath and approach each person, each situation, each room you walk into from a place of kindness, love, and simple positivity. Maybe even delight. See where it takes you. I bet there are peppy emails, creative solutions, and happier memories in your future.
And, one other thing - If you think that in this moment you don’t have any more positive energy to give, that you have no more love or kindness to share...dig deep. Because, you guys, we’re made of it.
P.S. We announced our Winter Challenge 2017! Did you get the details? Yoga Bingo is ON, y'all. The challenge started on Thanksgiving Day. Pick up your card at the front desk to play! This season, we're all about spreading generosity, kindness, and celebrating our love of yoga. I can't wait for you to join in. The prize? $100 to Yoga Dear and a set of Manduka props. Help spread #YDKind and give to Transitions. All the details can be found here.
P.P.S. Speaking of Manduka props...did you notice we have some shiny new objects on the Yoga Dear shelves? Grab a cup of tea and take a peek at our new Manduka collection of wool blankets, comfy bolsters, cork blocks and more in the studio. #YogafortheHolidays #HolidayWishList